The 3 Stages of Getting Unstuck (And How to Move Through Them)

If you’ve tried manifesting but nothing changed, you’re likely in one of these phases. Here’s the map to find your way out.

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First published on Medium

Let’s get straight to the heart of it.

You’ve tried visualizing. You’ve tried the affirmations. Maybe you’ve even built a vision board.

But the results you want still feel just out of reach.

What if the problem isn’t your effort, but your entire approach?

For years, I believed the same story you probably did: Work hard, do the things, and then you’ll become the person with the results.

It’s the “Action-First” model. And it’s a trap that keeps you in a cycle of striving and imposter syndrome.

But something shifted for us.

We discovered that real transformation — the kind that brings opportunities to your doorstep — doesn’t start with action.

It starts with identity.

And from my own journey, I see most people get stuck in one of three places on this path. See which one feels familiar.

Stage 1: You’re stuck in the “doing” loop.

You’re hustling. You’re putting in the hours. You’re following all the “how-to” advice.

But you’re doing it from the identity of someone who doesn’t have the results. It feels like pushing a boulder uphill.

What you need isn’t another action plan. It’s a new identity from which inspired action can naturally flow.

Stage 2: You’re “faking it,” but you don’t “feel it.”

You’re saying the words, but your inner self is screaming, “This isn’t true!”

It feels like a lie because your subconscious is highly integral. It rejects what it sees as false.

What you need isn’t better affirmations. You need a way to genuinely feel the state of the wish fulfilled, so your mind accepts it as a new truth.

Stage 3: You have moments of clarity, but they don’t last.

You get a glimpse of what’s possible, but the old story, the old feelings, creep back in.

Your growth feels fragile. The 3D world’s evidence is still too loud.

What you need isn’t more motivation. You need a structured practice to continually abide in your new identity, until the outside world has no choice but to conform.

Wherever you are, the shift is the same: You must stop ‘faking it until you make it’, and start feeling it before you make it.

This isn’t a theory. It’s how we landed a teaching gig in a 5-minute state of flow, without hustling for it.

We simply abided in the identity of “being teachers” for a couple of weeks. We connected with the feeling of ease, authority, and service. Then, the opportunity appeared. It was a natural, almost expected next step.

The action was a joyful effect, not a strenuous cause.

This is the core of what we teach.

By the way, we created our Shift Your Identity community and the Power of Awareness course (for Premium community members) specifically for someone like you.

I don’t just say that to be inspiring.

I say it because we were right where you are, not long ago. We built the system we needed.

As always, remember:

You are the conscious creator of your reality.
Keep creating your best self,

Sophia & Cristof